The Spiritual Journey of Midlife & Your Wild Heart
Wayne Dyer said, “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience but spiritual beings having a human experience.”
The Journey of the Wild Heart is another way to talk about the spiritual journey that everyone is invited to participate in, in this life. The core of the spiritual journey is to shift your identity from your physical self and the physical world to oneness with Spirit and your spiritual nature–in other words, your Wild Heart. Midlife is the time that most people are called into actively making that transition.
You don’t get a choice, really. The spiritual journey is mirrored in psychological development, at least to a point. At that point—around midlife—you get to choose how you participate, or retreat, from the call of your Wild Heart.
The Spiritual Journey Explained
Babies are born with no sense of separation. They perceive themselves as one with their mother, but also one with everything else in the physical world. This is mirrored in the brain’s total absorption of information and stimuli. A baby downloads language, emotions, patterns, beliefs—helpful and less than helpful—as fully true. There is no filtering system and no way to evaluate whether Mom’s tidal mood swings and the feast or famine affection that comes with them, are due to medication (or lack of it), mental or hormonal imbalance, sugar highs and crashes, or a volatile relationship with Dad. They just are, and because they are the model downloaded, they are interpreted as they way things are supposed to be, meaning that you continue to recreate them even if they wreak havoc in your life, until you become aware of the pattern and download or create a new pattern.
Along with the family download, you absorb the language, beliefs, norms, and worldview of your tribe/culture. Again, these views are downloaded as true and remain a deep hidden sense of truth until you do the work of realizing and changing your truth. Until you do, you unconsciously act in alignment with these hidden beliefs (even if they differ from your conscious beliefs) or you act in opposition to them, meaning that you rebel against them, again unconsciously. Either way, you are ruled by those hidden beliefs until you become aware of them and then change them.
The Call for Transformation
As you grow, you experience the often painful process of realizing that you have a separate body, with your own moods, emotions, experiences and, eventually, your own beliefs about yourself and the world, which develop from a mixture of the beliefs you downloaded and your own experiences that re-enforce or challenge those beliefs. This is the dance of becoming self-aware and then choosing what to do with your new awareness.
This dance of becoming aware (or resisting awareness) is the plateau on which most people camp for the remainder of their lives. The interesting thing is that once you choose your campsite and pitch your tent, your spiritual nature picks up where your psychological momentum stalls. The deeper forces in your psyche, namely your heart and soul, begin to woo you deeper into awareness and toward an expansive sense of who you really are beneath the limited beliefs you have about yourself that rule your mind and define yourself and your world.
The Gift of Divine Discomfort
Often, this invitation into awareness causes discomfort, inner conflict, stress, frustration, feeling stuck or even acute emotional pain. It can be attached to loss (job, relationship, death of a loved one, etc.) or to illness, menopause or a significant accident. It can be a longing for something that you felt you lost or missed out during your life. These uncomfortable feelings, which I sometimes call divine discomfort can show up as feeling unfulfilled or disconnected with your life in a way that is hard to define, because it is not the external structures like your primary relationship, career, family, that are unsatisfying, but how you relate to them. The structures often feel like they no longer represent, support or express who you feel you are.
You know when it is your Wild Heart calling you forward because the crises that in younger years would be just blips in the road start to shake the ground of your life and call into question who you really are. It is the hallmark of the spiritual journey of midlife, this crisis of identity, this foundation-crumbling awareness that all you’ve thought was real—about you, about life, about the world—isn’t as real as you thought.
Who Am I Really? The Perpetual Question of Life
“Who am I really?” is the perennial question of life, and is the entire focus of the spiritual journey. You are born one with your tribe and the physical world; the spiritual journey calls you into oneness with your spiritual nature, reflecting back to you that all that you learned about who you were supposed to be in this physical world is an illusion. Who you are as a spiritual being is your true identity, and the spiritual journey of life calls you toward this identity, asking you to peel back, layer by layer, the illusion of who you believe yourself to be in order to reveal the shining jewel of your true nature, your Wild Heart.
The Challenge of Midlife
The spiritual journey of midlife trips you up because society tells you that you just need to do the same things that used to work for you, but just to them more, better, faster, with the right balance of medication, a life coach and a sexy new car—the classic “midlife crisis” panaceas. That tangent may work for a while, but ultimately you end up on an even less satisfying pace on the plateau than where you first camped, because your heart is relentless in its desire to call you home to yourself.
The journey of your Wild Heart calls you into your true self, to traverse your own path into the mystery of who you really are. I’ve been on that passage—I still am. And while I can’t lay out an exact roadmap for you, I’m very familiar with the terrain we are all called to navigate. I created Journey of the Wild Heart with a focus on helping you find your path through this passage, to help you break free from the old beliefs and habits that have kept you in a holding pattern of illusion, and to help you recognize the truth of who you are.
Heart Journey Sessions Reveal Your Wild Heart
The Journey of the Wild Heart process is a specific approach to your spiritual journey. It transforms your divine discontent into an unfolding relationship with your spiritual nature, or as I call it, your Wild Heart. The beauty of doing this through Heart Journey sessions is that your heart does the work. Using your heart’s energy and the communication tools of the subconscious mind, you unravel the blocks that keep you from living from your wild heart. Because this is done on the level of heart energy and the subconscious mind, your thinking mind is minimally involved, so it is easier to get out of your own way and let the transformation happen. This approach shifts the currents of your life at a deep level, transforming not just the issue related to your divine discontent but touching all parts of your life, including your relationship with yourself, with life, and with spirit.
Te result? Most people first a new level of relaxation with their life and in their bodies, and as that calm moves through their lives they notice that they approach life differently, make different decisions, have options appear that they had never noticed before, feel more comfortable in their bodies and more at home in their life as it blossoms in new and exciting ways that are unique to each person because the journey is different for each person. We are not called forward to be the same as one another, we are called into expressing our most authentic unique self.
As with all aspects of the spiritual journey, your Wild Heart runs the show. This process is non-linear, intuitive and directed entirely by you. Your heart guides the process, releasing the blocks in the order that is best for you and at the speed that is optimal for you. Because it is easiest to do this when you are in a comfortable place for you, we do Heart Journey sessions over the phone (or skype if you are overseas.) This way, you can relax more fully, feel more secure, and I can “hear” what is going on in the way that is most clear for me and thus guide you though the process most effectively.
I’m no longer accepting new clients and recommend you contact the amazing Kevin Peer who also does heart-oriented hypnosis in person and over the phone.
You can find him at Inner Alliance . net
***Kristine Madera is a Certified Clinical Hypnotist and Hypno-Coach
***North Carolina has not adopted education or training standards for the practice of hypnotism, and so the statement of credential is for informational purposes only. Hypnotism is a self-regulating profession and licensed under the “Healing Arts” license issued by the State of North Carolina. In addition, the State of North Carolina only allows the term “therapist” to be used in conjunction with hypnotism for those who hold licenses specific to the medical and mental health fields. This is why I often use the term Clinical Hypnotist rather than Clinical Hypnotherapist while practicing in North Carolina. I am not a licensed health care provider and may not provide a medical diagnosis nor recommend that a client discontinue medically prescribed treatment.